How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. A recipient of the Connecticut Psychological Association Award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology and former supervisor…
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Janis brings tremendous compassion and groundbreaking clarity to one of the biggest challenges we face.
—Catherine M., Portland, Maine
For everyone, including mental- and spiritual-health professionals.
All of us struggle to forgive someone—a partner, parent, sibling, child, friend, or colleague. Relationship wounds often leave us feeling bitter, devalued, and emotionally raw. Sometimes both people in a conflict feel violated. Using instruction and role-playing exercises, this workshop teaches injured parties how to
- De-shame the injury
- Release their bitter preoccupation with its injustice
- See what happened more clearly
- Restore a sense of dignity
- Forge an appropriate relationship with the offender (this may mean cutting off or fully engaging with that person).
Those who have hurt others learn bold, humble, concrete acts of repair, including offering nondefensive apologies, understanding their contribution to the injury, taking a fair share of responsibility for what went wrong, and earning trust and forgiveness.
Come alone, with the person who hurt you, or with a friend. You are invited to participate as much or as little as feels comfortable.
Recommended reading Janis Abrahms Spring, After the Affair (revised edition, William Morrow), How Can I Forgive You? (HarperCollins), and Life with Pop (Avery Penguin).
- 8.5 credits for Psychologists (PSY), $30 additional charge
- 8.5 credits for Social Workers (SW), $30 additional charge
- room & meals pricing
9:00 am–5:00 pm, Monday–Friday
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Choice of Accommodations
Rates below reflect total housing costs for all program nights.
The dorms allow for 5–22 people per room, and offer simple bunk beds and nearby hall bathrooms.
- Standard Rooms
- $256 and up
These spare and peaceful rooms measure 8' x 12' and include a double or queen-size bed or platform twin beds.
- Standard Plus Rooms
- $392 and up
These quiet rooms are perfect for those who want a real retreat, and include simple décor, a double or queen-size bed, or twin beds.Learn More